Somewhere between ‘I do’ and ‘Until death do us part’ there is real life going on. It is too easy to get stuck in a rut and forget how to look at the world (and each other) with awe and wonder and pure delight! I wrote this poem below in 2012 and since it is our twelve year anniversary next month, I thought it would be fun to share it on my blog.
It is a light-hearted account about how my husband and I met and although it is a little cheesy, I think it is special that these simple words still evoke blushing, smiles and nervous laughter!
MARRIED NINE YEARS TODAY
On a beautiful spring day, September 6, 2003,
I was a nervous young woman; an excited bride-to-be!
A few years earlier I had met Bruce, at a night club of all places,
And at first he was just another guy, in a room full of faces.
No words were uttered; all we exchanged was a glance,
But then he boldly took my hand and we started to dance!
Later that evening he asked for my number, while walking to the car,
And I gave it to him without hesitating – which for me was bizarre!
When other guys had tried their luck in this way before,
I would usually blush and mutter (before heading for the door!)
But things felt different that night, it is something I still can’t understand,
What made me drop my guard and take this young man’s hand?
All I know is that he called to ask me out the very next day,
And my trusting mom simply waved, as we drove up the driveway.
The night before he was a stranger, the day after, my boyfriend,
What followed was love and marriage, but that’s not where the story ends.
Like all worthwhile journeys, there have been some highs and lows,
And two kids, a dog and picket fence, is not always how it goes!
But we’ve made the most of what we’ve got, and that is each other,
Our marriage is no less significant, for not being a father and a mother.
We still hold on to faith that there will be a child (or a few),
But for now we are a happy family, a family of two.
And while I look forward to making the kids peanut butter sarmies for school,
In the meantime I’m practising on hubby and he thinks that’s pretty cool!
It is easy to let life squeeze in between our relationships and cause us to drift in different directions. During these sticky times it is useful to have a stockpile of rich memories to pull up and help you keep a positive attitude towards your partner and relationship.
One of the ways you can keep growing together intentionally as a couple is to share memories, laugh together and do this often. Even social media is prompting us to “See our memories”. I encourage you to do just that this week: take a trip down memory lane or better yet, go out and make some new ones!