Just Do Something

It is the 5th day of December. I have been 40 for 5 days. I almost feel like going from 39 to 40 is like going from New Year’s Eve to New Year’s Day. Overnight things are meant to be fresh and new, as we implement goals, ideas and resolutions with enthusiasm and passion! However, reality tends to be overwhelming and a few days in, you fear you set yourself up for failure and have accomplished very little.

While chatting to friends this week, it seems many of us felt we were living our best life and worst life at the same time this year. I like to think that no experience is ever wasted if we learn from it and use it for good. Then it becomes tuition. First it hurts, then it changes you, but you can come back stronger, and fall back in love with yourself, the world and life again.

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We cannot expect different results if we keep doing the same thing. We are what we repeatedly do. The good news is you don’t have to wait for New Years to have a new resolution or attitude. Every day is a new beginning! There is nothing wrong with having a long-term goal or dream that scares you. I am all for that. After missing Comrades this year, I have entered to try run again in 2020. It freaks me out, but I am all in.

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However, I want to encourage you to make small, every day resolutions too. Make it something simple.

“The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.” – Mike Murdock

Don’t feel pressure from others because they are all aiming to conquer mountains (literally and figuratively) and you want to find time to read a book 30 minutes a week. Choose whatever is meaningful and unique to you. Perhaps you can aim to try a new recipe every Sunday or be kind to the person you share an office with. Your challenge may be to hum, not hoot, while being stuck in traffic or … (insert something you do daily and want to change).

I hope this random waffle on my heart this morning, makes a little sense and inspires you to start somewhere. Do something.

Thank 2019 for the lessons and let go of whatever is holding you back.

Make 2020 better, starting now!

Resolutions

“We spend January 1, walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. But maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives … not looking for flaws but for potential.” Ellen Goodman

As the year comes to a close, most of us will spend time looking back and if you are like me, perhaps you are surprised you are still here and made it through to the end in one piece! There are always so many unexpected highs and lows and yet, here we are, ready to begin again.

Sometimes these reflections lead to resolutions for the new year and focusing on things we want to change. While this is important, remember to concentrate on the positive potential and not the faults and flaws. Before stepping into something new, we usually have to let go of something we are holding onto and perhaps this is a bad attitude.

I know from experience how easy it is to slip into bitterness and self-pity but I have learnt to be better and choose joy, on purpose, even when I don’t feel like it and things are not going my way. We can make resolutions for 2019 but without a doubt there will be obstacles in the way. I read an article recently by Mark Gungor, on love in relationships, and how it is not something that is constantly there, following you around like a puppy. Instead it is more like a greased pig!

“You have to chase after it and pursue it. You have to run it down and tackle it. And when it gets away, you go after it one more time. You may finally get hold of it for a while, but then the little rascal can slip away and you have to chase it down again.”

I hope this brought a smile and reminds you to pursue what you want most out of life and don’t give up so easily. Keep chasing those dreams and working hard, despite difficult circumstances. It is also important to have fun between the obligations and responsibilities, so make sure you work in some things you enjoy and don’t overlook the little things either.

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A spoon of peanut butter always cheers me up. Maybe a good cup of coffee is something you relish or a glass of red wine like my husband. Your child’s laugh, a cool shower after a hot day or the sunset…there are so many treasures and pleasures in everyday life, that are easy to take for granted. We are spoilt for choice when it comes to blessings and it will serve us well to carry this gratitude attitude into the new year.

Intentions Not Resolutions

As I type this tonight, newsfeed is filled with #transformationtuesday posts and I am sitting on the stairs (which is great after spending the day on my feet doing DIY) taking a few moments to reflect on how I have ‘transformed’ since this time last year. Since I like to share my thoughts, I am writing them down rather abruptly (in case I am needed again) however, I think I am in luck, as a VIP soccer game is starting soon, so the toolbox may be packed away until tomorrow!

Most people nowadays are living complicated lives and they are constantly worn out and weary. The January to-do list has already begun and instead of enjoying the holidays, they are worrying about what lies ahead and robbing today of its joy.  It is easy to get sucked up in what everyone else is doing and spend your life wishing things were simpler, but wishing doesn’t change anything. I’m not somebody who makes New Year’s resolutions but rather prefer to re-evaluate my priorities and goals on a regular basis throughout the year. Often this means making daily decisions to adjust my approach to circumstances and keep things simple.

One of the ways I have transformed this year is to not let my fear of what others think of me stop me from pursuing my goals. Many of my problems stemmed from being insecure and trying to please people, which left me miserable and frustrated. I finally realized I can’t change people and circumstances that are out of my control but instead can only change myself and my approach to them. There are plenty opportunities to get upset about something every day but as someone once said, ‘Choose your battles’ and rather let things go and remain peaceful, especially if they don’t make any difference in the bigger picture (and if we are honest with ourselves, most of the stuff we get upset about, isn’t all that important.)

Things are going to happen that we didn’t plan for and we don’t like (the water leaks we are busy repairing are a good example!) Things like this used to make me very upset. Luckily, I have learned it is not worth losing my joy over it and instead accept that this is life and deal with it, without having a bad attitude. Many of us usually visualize a perfect Christmas and perfect holiday but we all know that isn’t reality. Unrealistic expectations set us up to be miserable. If things haven’t gone as planned for you, don’t be so hard on yourself. Decide to enjoy it all anyway and going forward, tackle each day as it comes.

“Lay down the bat, and pick up a feather.” -Anonymous

I am now putting myself to the test by adjusting my priorities and letting the house mess remain ‘as is’ until the morning and instead I’m off to join the husband on the couch to watch his favourite soccer team play their match. He loves it when I enjoy the game with him and so for the rest of the night, the to-do list is forgotten and “You’ll Never Walk Alone” will be the only thing filling my head!